A MUM whose daughter died aged 26 of breast cancer which returned in her brain has told her story to support the hospice.
Joanne Caunce from Platt Bridge, Wigan chose to tell the story of her daughter Rebecca Caunce.
Machine Operator Joanne said: “Rebecca was so funny and sometimes a little dizzy. I can still see the way she screwed her nose up when she laughed. She loved holidays, her Keep Fit classes, socialising with her family and friends, and her car – even though she lost the ability to drive towards the end. She was honest, reliable, loving. Beautiful. And I know as her mum I’m biased, but everybody loved her.”
Rebecca
In October 2018, at the age of 24, Rebecca was diagnosed with breast cancer. She had chemotherapy, a mastectomy, radiotherapy and then was given the all clear. Rebecca returned to her job at HMP Manchester where she worked as an Operational Support Grade in reception booking the prisoners in and out of the prison and booking in for prisoners’ visits.
However, in May 2020 Rebecca, who has a sister Bethany aged 21, began feeling sickly and dizzy. At first doctors thought Rebecca had vertigo or an ear infection. A doctor then suggested she go for an eye test in the hope of diagnosing the problem. She went on July 22nd 2020 and was immediately sent to Manchester Eye Hospital. Soon after it was discovered that cancer had returned – this time as a secondary cancer in her brain.
Former Deanery High School pupil Rebecca was hospitalised into Wigan Infirmary before she went to Wigan and Leigh Hospice for pain management and ultimately end of life care.
Going into the hospice
Rebecca went into the hospice on October 3rd 2020 and passed away on the inpatient unit just ten days later on October 13th.
Joanne said: “She used to say she was frightened and she didn’t want to leave us. To know she was going to pass away in months – the way she handled that news, the way she handled the last few months of her life – I’m so immensely proud of her.
“She went into hospital, right in the middle of the pandemic – and that’s where a nurse, and a doctor that also works at the hospice, came to see her. The hospice was full at the time, but they wanted to bring her in, put her on a syringe driver to help ease her pain. They explained to her how it would help get her symptoms under control and said she could maybe go home after a week. So, when a bed became free, she went across.
“As soon as we came to the hospice, it was like a different world. The doctors and nurses were fantastic; they tried so hard to make her comfortable. It was like she was part of their family – they even let us bring in our Cockapoo, Florence. They all wanted to see pictures of what Rebecca looked like before cancer, all the treatments.
“We were there with her all day, every day. They even moved us into a room with a sofa bed so we could stay more comfortably through the night. Rebecca was never left on her own and someone was always there to bring us cups of tea, toast in the mornings – whatever we needed. She was in so much pain still and it was very distressing for me – but they were so gentle with her – how they moved her, washed her; how they spoke to me and Jordan, her partner.”
Rebecca and her partner, Jordan, had recently bought their first home together in Ashton-in-Makerfield and initially Rebecca was determined to get back home.
Easing her pain
“At the beginning, I promised Rebecca we’d get her home,” said Joanne. “She and Jordan had only just bought it and she loved restoring it, making a home. She was ready to start a family. ‘Promise me,’ she said. ‘I want to be at home.’
“But eventually I had to say to her, ‘Rebecca, love, I know we said we would, but we’re not going to get you home. The care you’re getting here is second-to-none. You know that don’t you?’ And she nodded. We both knew this was where she needed to be.
“The truth is that we simply couldn’t have cared for her like the hospice cared for her. Even if we were able to bring her home, we’d have needed a bed downstairs – and she needed to be moved all the time; she was in so much discomfort, and eventually became paralysed losing the use of her own body. In the hospice, she was in the right place. They did everything they could to try to ease her pain.
“When she was gone, the nurses asked me if I wanted to lay in bed with her, and I said yes. I’ll always remember one of the nurses came in and gave her a kiss. She said, ‘Night sweetheart, you’re a brave, beautiful girl.’ And I thought that was so lovely that she did that. Each person at the hospice genuinely cares – and they loved her too. They must see some heart-breaking things, but they continue to look after people in their darkest hours, doing everything they can to take care of their families and loved ones.
“I’ll never get over losing Rebecca; she was the most incredible daughter. She is so missed. I haven’t been able to go back into the hospice – not yet. But I can’t thank them enough. I will go in soon.”
Rebecca’s family will be sponsoring a Christmas tree in the hospice gardens every year in her memory. The tree will be located outside the room where she was admitted.