Families' Stories

Read personal stories from people whose relatives have been cared for by the Hospice.

Friends walk in memory

Rudelle's story

Rudelle's mum Ann Lovick neé Brady from Hindley was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2008 and following a mastectomy for the first two years was able to carry on leading her normal life as a foster mum to three children and mum to Rudelle and her sister Nicole.

However in 2010 she took a turn for the worse and eventually spent her final month in the Hospice's Inpatient Unit in 2012 where she died aged 45.

'In 2010 she was in remission but she went for a check-up and found out that the cancer had spread," said Rudelle. "She knew then that it was terminal and her health declined."

"Three years on and we are still so grateful that the Hospice was able to take her in when she needed it the most. Within hours my mum went from a level of pain which meant that we couldn't even hold her hand to a calm and relaxed state and not long after, due to the quality of care and pain control, she was almost herself again. This meant that we could enjoy her last weeks with her and see her smile again. It was bitter sweet, but the best scenario in a bad situation.

"Looking back the care that the Hospice gave was really life-changing."

Chelsey's story

Memorial night held in memory of dad

Chelsey's dad Joseph was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in June 2011 aged 51 years old.

Chelsey, 24, and her brother Dan, 28, organised a memorial night in April 2015 almost a year to the day since their dad Joseph died aged 53 at the Hospice and raised £3,270.85.

Specialist teaching assistant Chelsey said: "We had a DJ, a raffle, games and we held a memorial fishing match earlier in the day because dad loved fishing so we handed out the trophies at the memorial evening.
"My dad was in the Hospice for two weeks and was looked after at home by Hospice nurses too. He was anxious at coming into the Hospice but when he got there he wanted to stay. They got his pain under control and brought his spirits up because it's a lovely place.
"The Hospice has also supported me since my dad died so I wanted to do something to help."

Emma's story

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Emma, 24, raised £1,700 by organising a soul night at Aspull British Legion Club in memory of her dad Neil Redmond who was cared for by the Hospice.

Neil was diagnosed with melanoma aged 50 and passed away in August 2012.

Emma said: "My dad was so well looked after and after the Hospice memorial evening, which was very touching, I knew I wanted to do some fundraising.
"I felt that now was the right time and my dad was very into his soul music so I decided what better way to raise money. He wanted to have a soul night for his 50th but he was too poorly so I organised a night to raise money and to remember him."

Susan's story

The Hospice In Your Home service launched at the end of 2013 and has since helped hundreds of local people.

One of those helped was Edwin Hayes from Wigan who was diagnosed with Motor Neurone Disease in January 2013 and died aged 71 at the Hospice on February 14th, 2014.

His wife Susan explained how the Hospice In Your Home team had helped them.

She said: "My family and I cared for Edwin on our own at first but in the last four weeks before he died I wasn't sleeping so I just couldn't cope. I wasn't getting more than a couple of hours sleep at night then our neurological nurse mentioned Hospice In Your Home.

"It made a massive difference, I was exhausted and Edwin was getting upset because he could see I was so tired. He was so worried for me and our family.

"I can't speak highly enough of the specialist nurses and Hospice In Your Home who came in the afternoon so I could go out and see friends or visit my sister. In Edwin's last week they did some overnight stays with us as well.

"The care we have had was only for a short time but Hospice In Your Home, especially Alison, went the extra mile."

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